Naija Music Big Things: Jay Naize Follow Follow is Becoming a Worldwide Hit!

Not long ago we (Tafia Naija) published an article about this young talented artist during the released of his song ''My Way''. Right now it seems this young energetic artist keeps coming up and hitting us with surprises, as he dropped another hot single ''Follow Follow'', which has become the next big thing in the clubs. Last time i checked, i saw this same song on almost all the big Nigerian music blogs such as Notjustok,Naijapals,Tayotv,Hitbangers,BellaNaija,Tooxclusive,Jaguda.com and many more.
The Djs and radio stations are costantly mixing and playing this song which is gradually becoming a hit worldwide.

Here is a short biography of Jay Naize:
Jay Naize (pronounce J-Nice) aka Bonomaster hit the music scene at the age of 9 rapidly moving into featuring on a radio and TV show "No Hide Your Talent"

He recorded his first single in his teens rapping and creating a unique hip hop high life mix that has continued to wow fans and peers worldwide.

After releasing his single 'You No Dey Try' , Jay Naize was signed on by a manager and went on to record ' Da Joint Breaker' alongside Smoky, Acid and Jerreman.

Following the conclusion of his higher education, he relocated and he is currently in Madrid, Spain where he continues to record music, produce music and he has continued relentlessly playing in the public arena at shows, gigs, private functions and events.

Jay Naize has released Bonoloto, Afuruniganya,Time over Time,My way,My Baby hit singles all part of several hot jams. He is due to release on his new album which shall be released shortly and with his impressive stage presence, resonant voice and ability to roll off lyrics that leave novices feeling like they are grappling with tonguetwisters, Jay Naize demonstrates talent that promises to deliver again and again.

CLICK HERE TO DOWNLOAD JAY NAIZE FOLLOW FOLLOW

Check Out The New STD That Is Killing Men Who Like Oral Sex

It appears that there is a new STD that is killing men and its related to oral s*x. The Human papillomavirus (HPV) was once believed to have no effect on men, but it’s now found to be harmful to men as well as well as women. In fact, giving someone unprotected oral s*x or receiving it from them if they are infected can seriously jeopardize your health. A new study has found a rapid increase in the number of throat and neck cancers over the last 12 years, with thousands of new cases occurring every single year.

BlackDoctor.org discusses the issue in more detail, noting that throat, mouth and neck cancers were once caused by tobacco use. But although the use of tobacco has declined, the rates of certain cancers related to HPV have been on the rise. The rate of STD infection is even greater in the black community, where a lower marital rate has led to an increase in the number of s*x partners. One researcher at a major university told YBW that he randomly tested 20 men in a barbershop and found that half of them were infected with Chlamydia without even knowing it.

According to the Journal of Clinical Oncology, over 11,000 cases of cervical cancer will be diagnosed this year, but the number has been declining. Women regularly get Pap Smears, but men are less likely to go to the doctor. As a result, the number of HPV-positive oropharyngeal cancer cases will rise to 8,700, with 7,400 of those cases in men. The disease then festers within the mouth and throat of the victim, causing cancerous sores to emerge for those who are undiagnosed.

A STORY YOU MUST READ!

One day a farmer's donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn't worth it to retrieve the donkey.

He invited all his neighbors to come over and help him. They all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly. Then, to everyone's amazement he quieted down.


A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well. He was astonished at what he saw. With each shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off and take a step up.

As the farmer's neighbors continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and happily trotted off!

MORAL :
Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The trick to getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up. Each of our troubles is a steppingstone. We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up! Shake it off and take a step up.

Remember the five simple rules to be happy:

1. Free your heart from hatred - Forgive.

2. Free your mind from worries - Most never happens.

3. Live simply and appreciate what you have.

4. Give more.

5. Expect less from people but more from God.

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or pass this along to someone else to share the lesson

5 Reasons Why Nigerian Girls Abroad Can't Find Life Partners

There are  many Nigerian girls in Europe but majority of our men prefer to go to Nigeria in search of their life partners. Sometimes one may wonder why this is happening as there are many Nigerian Europe based girls who can't even find a man to call theirs even at the age of 45.

Some are frustrated thinking there is a demon or Juju placed in them in Africa that is preventing them from getting their life partners. Let me tell you, there are many reasons why our Nigerian men are going to their land in search of their life partners and am gonna analyse them one after the other in this article

(1) PRIDE: Our Nigerian girls here in Europe are too proud. Many don't have respect for their men. Just because they are in Europe and they believe that European law supports women. They cease that opportunity to abuse their men and do them so many bad things knowing fully well that the men can't do them any harm otherwise they will end up in jail. That attitude is bad and you all should know that you are Africans and way back in Africa a woman has to be submissive to her man.

(2) LOUDNESS: Our Nigerian girls here in Europe are too loud. They wanna control their men, monitor their movements and know what they are doing at a particular point in time. When you try to explain simple things to them or try to correct them when they do something wrong, they scream ''Na you carry me come Europe?'' You all should change.

(3) PROSTITUTION: This is one of the biggest reasons why our Nigerian men don't wanna marry Nigerian girls in Europe. Many where trafficked to Europe to engage in prostitution. Some of these women even do this work with pride as they will normally say '' Any girl wey come Europe wey no wan hustle nor be correct babe'' Some have allowed the prostitution work to eat up their brain to the point that even when they are married, they still keep doing the job.

(4) SELFISHNESS: Majority of Nigerian women in Europe are selfish. They only think about themselves, they wanna make money, build luxury houses for themselves and their family back in Africa thereby forgetting that time waits for nobody. Before they start thinking of getting married, they already either have too much or grown too old thereby making our men lose interest in them.

(5) ABUSIVENESS: No man would want to marry a woman who abuses him on a daily basis. Our Nigerian girls here in Europe have this character. When you say one word they will say 100 words filled up with insults.They use these words ''Ogun dey kill you'' '' Thunder fire you'' '' Anything wey you find come Europe make you no see am'' These words are bad words that sometimes make our men get scared of marrying a Nigerian Girl living in Europe. Some prefer to date white women who are more calm, understanding, easy going and caring.

Please don`t take my article personal as its just my personal opinion on what is going on in the Nigerian environments here in Europe.

Article by Tafiaman.

15 things women do wrong in bed and how to fix them

All most people hear about is how women are very complex séxual creatures and how it takes more to please a woman than it does a man. Perhaps it’s not so much that as that men aren’t as picky and don’t complain about séx as much as women do. As long as they’re getting it, then everything is okay. However, men are a lot more complex than given credit for as they have séxual needs, desires, fantasies, likes, and dislikes too.

Rather than harp on what men could do better, here is an article that shows what some women are doing wrong in bed. Now, rather than just complaining about it, we’ve also provided some suggestions on how to fix them.

Problem # 1: During foreplay and séxual intercourse, women tend not to touch a man enough. Sure, she may have her hands on him, but not everywhere he would like them to be.

Solution: Ideally, you want her to touch your entire body with her hands during the course of foreplay and you would like for her hands to roam during intercourse as well. You may want to suggest a full body massage. If you really want to get creative and sensual at the same time, get some scented oils. Make sure that you’re on the giving as well as the receiving end.You don’t want to appear to be selfish and you always want to make sure she knows that you feel that you both should be pleased.

During séx, if her hands aren’t moving enough, communicate with her and be specific. Ask her to rub on your chest, for instance. Make sure she also knows that nipples are a sensual area for men as well as women. Some women don’t realize this and men’s nipples tend to get neglected.

Problem # 2: Women tend not to kiss enough. Kissing on the lips is not the problem, but women sometimes neglect the rest of the body.

Solution: If you let her know that you like to be kissed all over, she’ll probably have no issues with doing it. The problem is that women are programmed to think that men only want blowjoobs and séx. While these things are amazing and one or both are the ultimate goal, there are other things men like. So, the big solution is communication. Tell her what you’re looking for and be specific. Don’t forget to mention that tongues are wonderful!

Problem # 3: I’m not sure how it’s possible, but women tend to ignore men’s balls. They’re right there, hanging down for all to see when a man is naked. How they get ignored is a mystery, but some women seem to forget all about them.

Solution: As a guy, you know that any sort of tender touch, whether it’s with the hands or the mouth, feel incredible on your balls. You can gently take her hand and guide it to your balls so she gets the hint. Also, you may want to tell her that if she’s giving a blowjob that it’s a real turn on if her mouth and tongue wander on over to your balls once in a while.

Problem # 4: Men aren’t totally selfish and insensitive. Part of a turn on for most men is pleasing the woman too. In order to do this, men need to know what their woman likes and dislikes. Women don’t usually volunteer this information and it becomes a guessing game.

Solution: The solution is very simple. Have a conversation with your partner about what she likes versus what she doesn’t like. This also gives you an opportunity to volunteer what you like and don’t like. Also, encourage her to communicate during séx or foreplay as to where she wants to be touched, kissed, etc.

Problem # 5: A lot of men say that women are selfish. They want to be pleased, but don’t care to do much to please a man.

Solution: Rather than becoming resentful, you should realize and try to understand that a lot of women bide into the idea that men don’t’ really care for foreplay and the only thing that they want is séx. The first thing you can do is tell you partner what types of things you like during foreplay.

Get her stimulation up to a certain point and stop. Ask her to take a turn on you until you get to a certain stimulation point. Then you’ll take another turn. This is exhilarating for both people involved. Try it if you haven’t already. I think you’ll both be pleased with the results.

Problem # 6: A lot of women leave it up to the man to be responsible for safe séx. They leave it up to the man to have a stock of condoms. What ever happened to women’s lib and taking control of the situation themselves?

Solution: It’s important to remember that no one likes it when someone finds fault with them. So, this issue shouldn’t be posed as if she’s done anything wrong. Preferably, a good time to bring up the issue of condoms would be before séx ever occurs.

If you have an opportunity like this and you’re talking about the possibility of séx, you may want to casually mention that it really impresses you when a woman takes the initiative to have condoms on hand. Since she wants to impress you, she will most likely purchase some to keep on hand.

If you’re already séxually active with a woman, you can try the same approach. If she asks if it bothers you that you’re always the one responsible, you can say that  it just impresses you when a woman takes the responsibility. She will also most likely take the hint without getting her feelings hurt.

Problem # 7: A lot of men complain about the “dead fish syndrome”. That is pretty descriptive and we all know that means that during séx, the woman doesn’t move at all.

Solution: Tell her that you love to see her turned on and that it turns you on more. Ask her if she could get into it during séx a little more so that your bodies can move together. You can also explain that if she moves more during séx, it will increase the sensation for her as well.

Problem # 8: Some women don’t appear to be very adventurous and only want to have séx in the missionary position.

Solution: When you’re not in the heat of passion, ask them what séxual positions they’ve tried and which ones they like. Also, at this time, you can tell them which positions you like. Also, volunteer to try new and exciting positions that neither of you have tried.

Problem # 9: Women aren’t aggressive enough during séx or foreplay.

Solution: Did you know that a lot of women have never even tried being aggressive ? It may have never even crossed their minds. You could start by asking them if they’ve ever been aggressive during séx and tell them that once in a while it’s a turn on for you.

If they feel uncomfortable or unsure, reassure them that though it may feel funny at first it might be exhilarating for them. You can start them out slow and tell them that you’d like to see them grab you and force you down on the bed. If that works out, you can move on from there later on.

Problem # 10: Some women don’t make noise during séx. What does that mean? It might make you feel a little self conscious.

Solution: Tell her that if she makes a little noise during séx, it heightens things for you and it also lets you know that you’re pleasing her. Be prepared that she may ask the same from you. Make sure that you’re prepared to deliver.

Problem # 11: Some women aren’t open to experimentation and aren’t creative enough in the bedroom. They seem to be more than creative enough in other areas of their life, but in the bedroom they have little or no imagination.

Solution: Tell her that you’d be interested in trying new things. Don’t expect her to come up with ideas right away as she might have some sort of mental block due to some séxual hang-ups that are beyond her control. If you can come up with some ideas that she’s willing to try, she may open up later and have some suggestions. Make it clear to her that you’re willing to hear and try things that she may suggest.

Don’t be too freaky at first. Suggest things like having séx somewhere other than the bedroom. Try bringing food into your séxual experiences. If she’s receptive to these things, you can move up to bigger things later.

Problem # 12: A lot of women don’t take the initiative to approach you when they want séx.

Solution: This one can be a little tricky. First of all, before you approach her with this, make sure that you’re not approaching her or nagging her all the time for séx. If you are, she may not have had an opportunity to initiate séx.

After you’ve established that you’re not too demanding, ask her if there are times that she has wanted séx when you haven’t suggested it. If the answer is yes, then tell her that you would love for her to come on to you. Tell her not to feel strange and that it would really turn her on.

It’s important not to push this issue to much as it would be very easy for her to take this as she’s doing something wrong or even that she doesn’t want séx as much as you’d like her to want it.

Problem # 13: There’s not enough dirty talk in the bedroom.

Solution: This is another one that can be touchy. Some women feel very self conscious about this as they were taught that it’s not lady-like to say such things. It may sound strange to you, but it’s a very real situation to them.

You can ask them if it’s okay if you talk to them that way in bed, but don’t get too raunchy at first. If they’re receptive to that, then try it and see if they like it then you can tell them that you enjoy that too. Be prepared that they may not know what to say. It’s another mental block in the bedroom that some women have. Don’t feel strange about giving her some suggestions.

Problem # 14: She’s not spontaneous enough for you. Some women are too quick to get into a séxual routine.

Solution: Try being the one to initiate séx spontaneously at an odd time. Don’t be afraid to turn the romance on a little bit to surprise and entice her. After doing that a couple of times and letting her know how much fun you had, tell her that you’d like to continue to be spontaneous like that. Give her some ideas such as having séx in different places or in the middle of the afternoon. Tell her that “quickies” are cool sometimes too. Make sure she realizes that you’re not looking for a quickie all the time, but that once in a while it can be exciting.

Problem # 15: She wants to cuddle too much after séx; sometimes all night.

Solution: Sorry, pal. There is no solution for this one. Anything that you try to do to get out of it is going to make you look like a total creep. So, just deal with it and realize that it’s something that makes her feel secure and special. Basically, suck it up, be a man and be her “cuddle bunny” for the entire night.

The biggest thing to remember in a more pleasurable séxual experience for yourself is that you must communicate with your partner. It’s equally important to make her feel secure. Just as you want to be thought of as a fantastic lover, so does she. For that reason it’s very important not to offend her or hurt her feelings by telling her that she’s doing something wrong.

Instead, it’s best to make gentle suggestions. Also, listen to what they have to say. Listen and be understanding about any séxual hang-ups that they may have due to past experiences. Know that this doesn’t necessarily mean that certain activities or experiments are off limits.

It just means that you should be understanding and patient and possibly help her to tear down some of the barriers she may have that are in her way. Good luck and most importantly, have fun!

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by Aaron Borland

Aaron Boreland was born and raised in New York City. After getting a degree in English at NYU, he spent two years backpacking across the world before returning home. He currently writes for AMOG and spends his time with his wife Diane and his pit bull, Max.

How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back - A Sure Way to Win Him Back

You might not have even expected it. Your boyfriend broke up with you. After the unexpected incident you became conscious that you’ve been left all alone. You started wondering how to get your ex boyfriend back in order that you can bring an end to the pain as well as begin once more to make things right with him. However, supposing you ex boyfriend does not sense the same way? Does it signify there is no opportunity? Certainly not, If the two of you get back together, agree to the split-up as well as concentrate on improving yourself, you can get your ex boyfriend to desire you back. If you do the right thing, your ex boyfriend ought to be back in your arms in 30 days or less. 

The two of you require time to handle the feelings of the split-up. By so doing you’re multiplying your likelihood of your ex boyfriend to get you back. As he has space to consider the thing he has lost he is going to start missing you and slowly prepare for the odds of getting back together. 

Your major aim throughout the first couple of weeks is to not allow your feelings control you. If you appear anxious it is going to impair your odds eventually. You want to appear more gorgeous to your boyfriend, and appearing pathetic isn't attractive. You would like to look resilient, confident and appear to be doing well without him. 

After some weeks you can momentarily get in touch with your ex boyfriend and allow him see that you’re doing well. Wish him well. Ensure to keep the meeting friendly however don’t say things about the break up. You must acknowledge the relationship coming to an end be strong and prepared to go on with life, with or without him. Agreeing to this fact is not easy, however mandatory. 

Moving on with your life is your main concern at present that your feelings are under control. This does not at all signify you’re backing off. You can't obsess concerning how to get your ex boyfriend back as well as totally put your life in a state of uncertainty. Attempt new things that interest you or simply spend time your friends. As soon as he observes that you’ve doing well, you’ll be giving an impression that you are doing ok. This is the most excellent method to make him want you back again. He sees a confident, strong woman who he can't consider he lets slip away. He’ll desire you back. It typically takes approximately one month and afterward you’ll see things turning around as well as you’ll turn out to be the much loved present that your boyfriend simply has to get back.

How to pick up women - The Right Place, The Right Words

As in many favourable instances in life, the fortunate are the recipients of their good fortune because they were in the right place at the right time, and oftentimes, equipped with the right thoughts and words. This is especially the case when it comes to men figuring out how to pick up women, as there are many women who not only look at the physical appearance of the guy, but also put a premium on what they have to say, and how they say it, as more women are learning to draw the general disposition and probable intent of a guy from how they talk and what they talk about during a first date.

Location, location, location 

Another gauge that women use in drawing a mental picture of a guy is their suggested venue for the date. From this they cal already determine how much a cheapo the guy is, or if he is just really intent in getting into her pants above everything else, or if the entire date would be one of the most boring events in the woman’s life. In the case that the guy is into picking up women in bars, it is not always a safe bet that the woman found in the bar is always one up for a good “game”. There is always the chance that the woman frequents the place because of the good ambience, music, or even food and the drinks, and is not really there to see someone, although in the case of a singles bar, this mind set may not always be the case. Should the woman ask you what particular place you would like to take her to, try to at least find a decent place that gives an impression of you being a fun and decent person, since sleazy place could always point to a sleazy guy. 

Finding the best “hunting ground” 

In looking for a place to pick women up, try to expand your normal bracket of venues. While bars and clubs are the most common places to find women to date, there are also some other venues wherein you could very well find a woman who might even share some interests as you. There are a surprising number of people who manage to meet in places where one does not normally expect to hook with someone, such as a library or an art gallery. These are places bound to have someone who might prove to be of a more interesting fare than the usual ones. Other venues where one can meet women, such as conventions, auctions, and even seminars or short learning courses. It could prove to be a good practice to try to expand your list of best places to pick up women.

G Spot Orgasm. How to make a woman cum.

This article is written to help a man give a great orgasm to a woman with herpes. 

Well, the first question might be, why would it be any different than making a non herpes woman cum? The answer is for the most part there is no difference. However, a woman with herpes may have emotional blocks regarding herpes, which hold her back from really letting go. I will get into rubbing her G spot the right way in a minute, but first let's cover the emotional aspects. 

With herpes, a woman may feel flawed or insecure because she has herpes, and somewhat inhibited and restrained. (of course this can happen with men too.) So it is important to start with some friendly talk, assuring her that she is OK, and that you care about her, and that you get pleasure in giving her pleasure. Be sure to also tell her that you enjoy watching her get excited because it excites you too, and that right now this is all about pleasing her, and she doesn't have to do anything to please you. You can tell her that you are excited thinking about entering her later, but right now you want to just concentrate on giving her pleasure. Let her know that you really enjoy seeing her excited, and that you love to please her. Tell her you like looking at her body and touching her body and seeing her excited. Also mention some aspect of her body that you really like, examples being her smooth skin, her breasts, her nipples, and how it excites you to look at her. This is all about giving her assurance that she definitely has what it takes to turn you on, so she needn't worry about that. 

A good thing to do is to start with a full body massage, with her lying on her tummy.... get some scented massage oil and massage her neck and shoulders and back and work your hands down to her buttocks and knead them like you are making bread. Then down her legs all the way to her feet. Have her roll over and start with her legs and work your way up, but, be sure to avoid the genital area for now. Massage her shoulders and breasts, and then her stomach. Here is something important, always maintain touch with her. If you are squatting on your heels by her side, keep part of your leg toughing her, and also when you need more oil, keep on hand on her while you reach for it, and place one hand on her, palm up, and squirt the oil onto your palm, rather than skirting it directly on her. Finally, pour some oil on her pussy and spread her lips and massage her clitoris, just for a bit. By then she will be ready to have you put your fingers inside her. 

Use one or two fingers.... you will have to be near her lower thighs, so you can reach in the right way. Put your one or two fingers inside, about 2 inches, and feel for her G spot. Your hand should be palm up at this point, giving her little strokes in a sort of come here motion. Vary your motion between long and short strokes. As you feel her G spot swell up, and you sense that she is getting ready to cum, use only one motion, either the long stokes or the short strokes, whichever seems to be working best. Keep doing this until she cums. Do NOT ask her if she came, you will know! 

23 Ways To Make Your Girl Smile And Happy

1. Tell her she is beautiful or gorgeous(not fine, or sexy)

2 . Hold her hand at any moment . . even if its just for a second.

3 . Kiss her on the forehead/ neck.

4 . Leave her voice messages to wake up to.

5 . When she is upset, hold her tight and tell her how much she means to you.

6 . Recognize the small things . . . they usually mean the most.

7 . Pick her over all the other girls you hang out with.

8 . Write her notes. (she loves them)

9 . Introduce her to family and friends . . . as your girlfriend.

10 . Play with her hair..cheesy.

11 . Pick her up, tickle her, and play-wrestle with her.

12 . Sit in the park and just talk to her.

13 . Tell her funny jokes, tell her silly jokes, or just tell her jokes.

14 . Let her fall asleep in your arms.

15 . If she's mad at you, kiss her.

16 . Give her piggyback rides.

17 . Bring her flowers

18 . Treat her the same around your friends as you do when your alone.

19 . Look her in the eyes and smile.

20 . Let her take as many pictures of you as she wants.

21 . Kiss her in the rain.

22 . If your in love with her . . . tell her.

23. Play a song for her most likely on a guitar.

5 Reasons Why Women Cheat On Their Men

There can be little other news that is more devastating to man, than to discover that his wife has cheated on him and has been having an affair with another man. The very thought of another man séxually penetrating his wife, or his wife enthusiastically giving oral séx to her new lover can make the jilted husband feel sick to the stomach for days, even weeks on end.
Unfortunately, an increasing number of men have been contacting us here at The Modern Man, trying to seek answers to the questions, “Why did my wife have an affair? Why did she cheat on me? What causes women to have affairs? What did I do so wrong to deserve it? ” So, I’m going to share my advice here in a dedicated article on why women have affairs.

The Rules of the Game Have Changed

Relationships are not like how they used to be in the early 1900s or even a few decades ago, for that matter. Today’s women are constantly being bombarded with TV sitcoms and Hollywood movies telling them that if they are unhappy, they should get a divorce or have an affair. Unlike in the past, a woman isn’t surrounded by a society that is telling her, or even forcing her to remain married no matter what. A woman in 1900 for example, would feel like the “scum of the Earth” for committing such a disloyal act as having an affair. However, when it comes to women of today’s generation, unless her man is able to create and maintain the right relationship dynamic, she will often act on what she believes to be valid reasons for an affair and she will feel fairly comfortable doing it.

At The Modern Man, we believe that if you get married, you should stay married. Marriage isn’t something you “try,” it’s something you do for real. It’s for keeps. If there are problems in your relationship, you should work to fix them rather than giving up. In our opinion, affairs are never justifiable. If a relationship is unrecoverable and you absolutely have to break up, both people should, out of common decency, maturity and respect for each other, wait until that is done before they find someone new. However, to avoid an affair or break up even happening in the first place, here at The Modern Man we teach men how to create and maintain the right relationship dynamic, so affairs never become “necessary” for a woman. It is much easier to avoid an affair occurring in the first place, than to try and save a devastated relationship after one has happened.

Here are some of the reasons why a woman will want to have an affair behind her husband’s back.

Reason One: Arguments That Don’t Lead to Change

When arguments become on-going between you and rarely a day passes without some degree of emotional upset in your relationship, a woman is going to start thinking of why she puts up with it. Women of past generations had to put up with it and try to work through it, even if the husband responded badly and his behavior got worse as a result. These days, if a man isn’t being the perfect man like the ones depicted in TV sitcoms and movies, it has unfortunately become socially acceptable for a woman to leave, or worse, have an affair behind his back.

Men who are successful in their relationships with women do not throw their hands up in the air in the face of an argument or blame the woman for all the arguing. When faced with a problem in life, a real man faces it head on and figures out how to fix it. Things are not always going to run smoothly in a relationship every hour and every day, but couples in successful relationships get through rough patches by facing problems and looking for ways to fix them, not running away and hiding from them. As a man, it’s your job to take the lead on fixing the problem. If you don’t know how to fix it, learn.

Why do the arguments happen in the first place? Read this article, “Why Am I Always Arguing With My Girlfriend?” to understand what leads a woman to start arguments with you and how to turn them into an opportunity to deepen your love, attraction and respect for each other, rather than pushing you further apart.

Reason Two: She Doesn’t Feel Sexy Around You Anymore

There are some very sneaky men out there who prey on married women and women in long term relationships. They live by the old old saying, “Show me a beautiful woman in a long-term relationship and I’ll show you a man who is bored of having séx with her.” To protect your relationship against these opportunistic men, you need to ensure that your woman feels increasingly sexy around you. Most men are able to make their woman feel séxy during the initial part of the relationship, where there is plenty of romance and natural lust. However, as they progress through the stages of a relationship, they are clueless as to how to retain that or build on it.

In The Modern Relationship, I explain the secrets to not only maintaining the degree to which your woman feels sexy around you, but how to increase it. When your woman feels sexy around you, she is going to be more open to sex and to doing “sexual favors” for you, if you know what I mean. Making her feel sexy and sexually confident around you, also means that she will continually make an effort to look good for you. You’ll find that she wears sexier clothes, makes more of an effort to stay in shape and is generally much more fun to have sex with.

Reason Three: Bad Séx or Lack of Séx

Once again, most guys are able to please their woman fairly well during the initial stages of a relationship. However, once familiarity has set in and they fail to increase the degree to which a woman feels séxy around them, the séx can become boring and predictable. The secret to avoiding this is to make your woman see you as her “séx god,” so to speak. To her, no other man is necessary because to be séxed by you touches her and satisfies her on the deepest levels of her being.

Now, don’t get me wrong here. I’m not talking about spending loads of hours on tantric séx, or any other “Sensitive New Age Guy” rubbish like that. I’m talking about deeply penetrating your woman’s body and mind as you have sex with her, without needing to spend time on foreplay or doing unnecessary things like dressing up and role playing. You don’t need any of that when you know how to deeply penetrate her body and mind during séx. It doesn’t matter if you do it for 5 minutes or 30 minutes; when you séx a woman right, she will be the best girl you’ve ever had in your life. You tell her to make you a coffee and she will jump at the opportunity to please you. Tell her to give you oral séx while you watch TV and she will feel LUCKY to be doing it.

However, if the séx is boring or if there is a lack of pleasurable séx, modern women (especially those who watch TV sitcoms that glamorize affairs and divorce, rather than condemning it) will often start thinking that maybe an “exciting affair” will liven up their life again. Unfortunately, when a woman consults with her friends, they will often encourage it and even help make it happen. The best strategy to protect your relationship in the modern world, is to become the type of man that women desperately want to be with. You can no longer just be an “okay option” or maintain a boring, séxless relationship. If the woman isn’t feeling fulfilled, she is more likely to have affair or just up and leave you.

So, how do you create the right relationship dynamic and how do you penetrate a woman’s body AND mind during séx? It’s about being a masculine man, being present and making her feel like a feminine woman. Watch Better Than a Bad Boy to learn how. When you have séx with women in the way I suggest, you will be amazed at how much good treatment you’ve been missing out on from women. The truth is, a woman WANTS to be in a position in the relationship where she feels lucky to be having séx with you. If you don’t give her that gift and make her feel lucky like that, you’re leaving her wide open to being preyed on by men who seek out unhappy women for easy séx.

Reason Four: Lack of Excitement

One of the traits that women find most attractive in men is unpredictability. I’m not referring to wild unpredictability where you do crazy or dangerous things, I’m talking about interesting unpredictability where you are not boring! I teach guys how to be unpredictable when talking to women for the first time, on the phone and on dates in The Flow and I explain how to do it in a relationship in The Modern Relationship.

All relationships go through stages and there can be no doubt that the early stages of infatuation with one another make everything about the relationship feel extremely exciting. It can feel fun and exciting to be even sitting together on the couch, cuddled up and watching TV…but, after a while it will stop feeling fun if you don’t maintain and grow the love and attraction you feel for each other. As the relationship grows, the “love rush” of the early days is replaced with a different kind of emotional connection and this is when some women can slip into thinking that something is missing in the relationship. An affair is then used as a way of finding out if the something that’s missing can be found in someone else.

Reason Five: You’re Not Being a Man For Her

Let’s face it; if a woman is extremely happy in her relationship with her man, she’s not going to be interested in having an affair. Generally speaking, a woman will seek to have an affair when she isn’t happy and thinks that another man will provide the happiness she is lacking. As you may know, we are each responsible for our own feelings of happiness and shouldn’t solely rely on another person (or people) to make us happy. Much of it has to come from within, from our purpose in life, the love we share with others and our perception of the world around us. However, you can’t rely on a woman to know that and live by it. Your woman may think that happiness is found in a man, in buying shoes and in eating cake, who knows!

As a man, you need to take personal responsibility for the relationship you have with your woman. You can literally guide her into happiness, love and total surrender to you by being a man for her. The more of a man you are and the more you guide her into being a true, feminine woman, the happier both of you will be. These days, a lot of men unknowingly guide their women into depression, unhappiness and lack of desire because they simply don’t understand how to “be the man” in a relationship.

Men and Women Have Changed, But Are Still the Same

Although modern women have become more confident, independent and in a way, more masculine in their behavior and thinking due to entering the workforce and taking on bigger roles, changing attitudes in society and the after effects of the feminist movement – women still want you to be a man. Women are not the new men, they just have more voice, choice and freedom. Deep down, under the superficial layer of masculinity they have to put on to survive in the modern world, they are still just girls…and want to be treated that way behind closed doors.

These days, most men are unsure how to behave around the confident, new aged women and unfortunately, they end up looking to TV for the answers. However, when a modern man watches TV, he’ll often see TV commercials where husbands are depicted as clumsy, sex-starved idiots who are trying to do whatever they can to please their wife, who always seems to be on the verge of hitting him across the head with something. Why do they show this stuff on advertisements? Well, they can’t have men treating women that way, can they?

Companies advertising their products cannot depict women as wanting to be bent over the couch by their husband, as a reward for her doing the housework or cooking a good meal. Yet, the truth is, women do want to be in a position where they are rewarded for their good behavior. The better they behave and the more they please you, the more of your attention, love and sex they will get. That’s what women want. Yet, if you believe what you see on TV commercials, you’ll end up thinking that you will get more sex, love and respect from your woman if you do the housework and stay out of her way…or else she’ll get mad!

If you want to get a real education on how to be a man, watch Better Than a Bad Boy. Trying to learn how to be a man by watching TV sitcoms, Hollywood movies and the odd TV commercial is only going to cause you more confusion, frustration and problems now and in the long run. If you don’t want to invest years of your life and loads of your time and money into a relationship, only to have a woman turn around one day and say, “I need to tell you something. I’ve been having an affair. I am in love with another man” then get educated and enjoy a relationship the way it should be enjoyed. That being, where the love, respect and attraction you feel for each other GROWS rather than fades away into arguments, infidelity and divorce.